Monday, February 9, 2009
"The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves"............
Let me start off this blog post by giving you the definition of jealous/jealousy : jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another's success or advantage itself. mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims. a jealous feeling, disposition, state, of mind.
*~Quotes that say it all~*
Jealousy is the . . . apprehension of superiority. --Shenstone
Whoever had qualities to alarm our jealousy, had excellence to deserve our fondness. --Rambler.
I am writing this blog because I have been dealing with 'jealous' people for quite a while now, it has gotten worse since I had Kiah which to me seems kind of odd. Myspace is pretty much where it all comes in....... I have had people be rude, hateful, and very opinionated for no apparent reason; come to find out after the fact, that the reason for their madness was stemming from the 'jealousy' they felt towards me. I am not a conceited type of person, I mean I do know that I am pretty because I have always been told that by everyone, but theres many people out there that know they're good-looking and that doesn't mean they are conceited! CONCEITED: Holding or characterized by an unduly high opinion of oneself; vain. ( so im pretty, big deal?)
So it really irritates me that some people are jealous of me and the things that I have. I feel that since I am beautiful, attractive, intelligent, funny, sweet, very polite & kind, that I am being punished for it sometimes. It has been brought to my attention that I throw money, my husband, and my daughter in people's face. So now here i am being "punished, shall i say" for having a beautiful daughter, a great hubby who respects me & opens my doors for me & promises me on a daily basis that im the most beautiful girl he has ever layed eyes on, oh and for the fact that my husband brings close to $3,000 in from his job each week! Okay I am sorry people but these are things that I really cannot help?? I consider myself very blessed and I thank God everyday for what he has given me. He has given me a good baby cause he knows I have ZERO patience, a great husband for he knows I am a good person and he wanted to match me up with just the man I deserve, and he blessed me with money cause he knows I used to never have any (especially money enough to buy myself anything that I wanted).
Also someone told me that I have a problem with 'bragging' about things that I have and others dont have. I am not going to lie, I do brag and I actually don't know anyone who doesn't from time to time. But I sure in the hell don't brag all the time, and I don't brag in hopes of making someone feel bad or unworthy. I am just proud of everything i have accomplished and happy that i am fortunate to have the life and things that I do. So if you think I am bragging, think again. The main reason I wanted to share all of this with everyone is because me and an acquaintance of mine recently had a little 'tif' about things I thought were just 'stupid & ignorant' at the time. I found what I was being accused of preposterous. Well come to find out this particular 'fight' stemmed from jealousy, big surprise?! I had left a PICTURE comment on a friend's myspace page (she is pregnant) just telling her that she was alot bigger than I was when I was that many weeks pregnant. This person has a 'weight issue' and has had one her whole life. Therefore, automatically and I am sure unknowingly she assumed that I was referring to the fact that she was overweight (i think she is beautiful!) When I was indeed only referring to her baby bump. She later confessed to me that she was just jealous that I have some qualities she doesn't posses, and it was actually kind of funny cause the qualities she accused me of having I don't have lol, so I think that may have helped her to feel better about herself and the situation. It made me feel bad that she took the comment the wrong way because I can only imagine having a lifelong insecurity and then thinking someone is pointing it out especially at a time when you are supposed to feel beautiful. By the way, this girl I am speaking of is gorgeous and has no reason to be jealous of anyone.
Well, I read what i wrote and I guess I was just going from subject to subject just rambling on lol. Some words of advice from me to you all who read this: Instead of being jealous towards others, be thankful for what you do have because I can guarantee you that you do have something that noone else does. And remember its not how good looking you are, how skinny, or how much money you have in your bank account but its who you truly are as a person & whats in your heart that truly counts. Don't worry be happy and don't be jealous of others for you will NEVER FIND HAPPINESS. Im going to end this post with one of my favorite quotes! "The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves"............
Posted by kaceyhill at 3:24 PM