Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Did you just refer to me as a 'skinny' girl?

So.... Its been just really kind of strange for me lately. I have NEVER considered or thought of myself as a skinny girl. Now it seems like I have heard " girl, I wish I was skinny like you" over a dozen times, all AFTER I had my daughter Kiah who is now 9 months old. I still can't believe that I weigh less now then I did before I ever even got pregnant. I really don't know how I did it! Honestly I didn't really even try to lose it! I weighed anywhere between 130-138 before my pregnancy, and I was at a whopping 165 whenever they weighed me in at the hospital (I gave birth to Kiah about 10 hours after that weigh in)

I guess I am just not used to being referred to as the 'skinny' girl. I know that I am in no means a 'bigger' girl but I don't see myself as skinny either, its just weird. I actually get uncomfortable whenever girls say something like they wish they were skinny like me or whatever; I think it bothers me cause I know how i feel sometimes about girls I see in magazines (they have those flat tummys and perfect boobs with those long ass legs), I just don't want a girls envying me because of my body as I sometimes do to those 'perfect' models. Anyways, I do consider myself lucky for losing all of my pregnancy weight so fast (i lost it in less then 2 months!!) cause I know how hard it is for most women to lose their pregnancy weight at all for that matter. I also have a 'stomach issue', where if I eat too much food at once I get sick at my stomach; a piece of bread makes my stomach feel as if I just ate an entire pizza by myself. I DON'T throw up and I dont have an eating disorder, so don't get confused with that. I sure in the hell don't need something like that going around town right now!! As soon as I can I am going to see a 'stomach' doctor, I can't remember the exact spelling for what the technical name for them is.

So the main reason I wanted to post this blog (beside the point that that's what the purpose of my blog is, to let everyone know what goes on in my head& life on a daily basis) is to let everyone know that I don't think that I am skinny that I have insecurities just like anyone else. I am learning to love myself for who I am. Be proud of who you are and what you look like, and remember you are beautiful and unique, there is NOONE in this world who is quite like you!!

6 Ways to Boost Body Image Without Losing a Pound

While losing weight may give a temporary boost to your self-esteem, linking self-worth to a dress size is never going to have a long-lasting effect, experts say. What can make a difference is changing the way you see what's already there in the mirror.

Ironically, doing so often translates into making the kind of self-care changes that can also lead to improvements in the way you look.

"When your self-esteem is high, you care more about yourself, so doing things that are good for you, like eating a healthier diet or exercising regularly, also comes much easier, and we are more successful at it. And that often means we end up looking and feeling better," says Martz.

To help you get started thinking about yourself in a more positive light, our experts say, put away the scale, ignore those size tags, and focus on the following.

  1. Stop negative self-talk immediately. While you still may not like what you see in the mirror, Martz says, learning to describe yourself with neutral, objective phrases can help stop the cycle of poor self-esteem. So, instead of saying to yourself "I have really ugly thighs," think "My thighs could use some work."

  2. Find and focus on the things you like about your looks. It's best not to link your looks to your self-esteem, but with body image so intimately entwined with self-image, that can be hard to do. The next best thing is to find something about your image you really like. "It can be great hair, great nails, terrific teeth. Find the things about yourself you can say something good about, and every time you look in the mirror, go there first and say something positive to yourself," says Martz.

  3. Treat yourself with the same kindness and respect you show your best friend. "Would you respect and care about a person who says about you what you are saying about yourself? If the answer is no, then begin treating yourself at least as well as you are treating others in your life," says May.

  4. Say what you mean. Sometimes, hating your thighs is all about wanting thinner thighs. But sometimes, Kaufman says, negative body thoughts are a way of expressing discontent over other issues in your life. Learn to decode these messages, she says.

  5. Dress the part. If you're putting off buying new clothes until you like your body better -- don't. Whether you're bursting at the seams in duds that are too tight or swimming in oversized clothing to hide your body, you are eroding your self-esteem. "Buy what fits you, and look the very best you can. It sends a powerful message to yourself that you are worth it," says Aronowitz.

  6. Recognize that people naturally come in different shapes and sizes, and cherish your body's uniqueness. And, Martz says, remember this: "Only 2% of the world's women fall into the supermodel category. That leaves a lot of room for the rest of us!"

Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.

Self-confidence gives you the freedom to make mistakes and cope with failure without feeling that your world has come to an end or that you are a worthless person.

P.S. I will be posting a 'quote of the day' and many other 'things of the day', just have to think about it. God Bless.

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